The command you need is
addaction.However, the rest of your plan won't work. Adding waypoints won't do anything, because players using Veteran mode won't see them. And players using Cadet mode can just ignore them.
I suggest that the "run away" option doesn't really do anything. However, the "surrender" option starts a cutscene in which the player is led away and put in the Ural. The cutscene ends with you in the prison, where you can then stage the breakout.
Edit: I know you're frustrated, we all get that feeling, but give us a chance to answer before you bump your post ..... 9 hours is a bit soon.