Didn't Game Informer give Shellshock 67 a 6.5 rating or something out of 10? I guess it wasn't very good, moral criticism aside. Maybe I'm wrong, maybe it was another nam game...
As for the "real war" I don't care what you do. Making an addon is fine, you have school kids. I figure it that its the mission designers fault if he/she does something others feel is immoral. But res came with women, so did I get all bloodthirsty? No, I actually rarely use women civs in missions, dunno why. But BIS did, they didn't seem to have a problem killing Mr. Troska's girlfirend near the end.
All in all its not the addon makers fault what happens in a game. I've seen "mistresses" as an addon, imagine what a skilled cutscene person could do there... Now we have the big "s" word in OFP... I'll leave it at that, make the addon, make it a good one. Then leave the ppl to decide what mission is immoral or what is right in their virtual world.
I think its just a game.