Ok, calm down everyone. This can be an emotional topic so please keep it mature and calm.
IMO getting close to reality is good in OFP. It is an unfortunate truth that women and children are often involved in conflicts. And IMO it's a good thing not to ignore the fact that anyone can die when large battles occur.
In real life, war and large scale fighting is horrible and should always be used as a last resort. So maybe helping people see this or making them confront this fact when they don't want to is a good thing? I guess it all depends on whether or not we want our games to not only be fun, but teach us important lessons too.
If the community in general is able to accept such an addon idea, I say go for it. (and I might even help) If not though, I can see such ideas dividing the community and starting problems.
Also, I can see this adding to the dramatic effect of missions, as well as the general atmosphere and ability to get the player to feel emotions that they wouldn't have before.
Asmo